30 August 2010

Of Sex, Sex Education and Society

Is the way society perceives sex today “healthy”? Or does it have negative results which if left unchanged, could cause harm to society? It is argued by many that the promotion of abstinence had detrimental effects, that it, leaving people ignorant of sex played a key role in unwanted pregnancies [1]. It is believed that sex education plays a crucial role in the development of responsibility [2]. And since the parents fail to teach their children about sex [2.1], (at least according to social psychologists) it graciously accepted the responsibility of doing so. Very well then, I believe its high time some one review the progress we made since society talked about sex more openly. And see what this has accomplished. We will firstly examine what it is Sex Education achieved , then look at Society to determine the results.

Sex Education.

Sex Education, as previously mentioned, claims to provide a means for children to understand the responsibility and consequences of sex. But how necessary is it for a child of five [3] to know about sex (even if it is claimed to be a mild form of education)? Very, they would have you believe, because children are curious about the nature and composition of the opposite sex. Hm, yes but where from is this curiosity borne? A desire to mate? Is it perhaps an indication that he or she is mature enough to make these decisions? I doubt anyone would say yes to either of these questions. So why then, does this natural curiosity prompt the justification for introducing sex-education?

It is they claim, shown to be, that introducing children to the subject at an early age, has positive effects on such things as teen pregnancy rates. In other words the entire system of sex-education is not built around abstinence but rather around teaching the youth in having sex. In a safe way, I am sure they would be eager to point out.

It is absurd to suggest such a thing, you may think, but when one reads that 1000 children under the age of 13 [4] are prescribed tablets to prevent pregnancies, you quickly come to the realization that the function of sex education is precisely that. Sex education teaches our youth to be sexually active in a safe way, and society with the blessing of Government nurtures this position. It nurtures a false sense of security, by calling the “preventative measures” during sex “safe”, which by its very meaning implies fool proof. This is leading children into committing acts that have consequences that are not fully within their means to handle. Naturally one would first ask what sort of parent would allow this sort of thing to happen. But these prescriptions are given with no requirement for parental permission at all, in fact, there is even no need for the parent to be aware of this. It in other words offers complete anonymity to the child.

It is said that the period of puberty provides a curiosity of a different nature. Because at that stage in life one develops the means to reproduce. True enough perhaps, but should wisdom not dictate that one should teach them to act responsibly? At the moment we're teaching the youth not in responsibility but rather irresponsibility. Since we teach them of sex in terms of options they have in doing so without responsibility. If the condom fails then you always have the option to abort, we even teach them how to allegedly “prevent” STD's of which none are (as previously stated) fool proof. These all encourage promiscuity rather than behavior that exhibits control which is the function of acting responsibly.

So, how then will we resolve this issue? What can be done to ensure that we return to a healthy well functioning society? How do we resolve the problem of teenage sex? Do we give power back to the parent? And trust that they would educate their children properly regarding this matter? It could be and is often argued that many fail to educate their children in sex at all [See earlier reference]. But even so, should we leave the parent to be irresponsible and educate their children on this matter in their stead? Or should we perhaps look toward creating a society of responsible parents instead? Parents not only have a responsibility to themselves, but to their children and the community as well, just as the community has a responsibility to each and every member therein. We should do more to make more enlightened and responsible parents, rather than to accept that there are irresponsible ones and we'll just have to carry their weight for them. Even so, there is no sure way even if we make it mandatory for parents to attend classes, that they would fulfill their obligations to their children. However, to do so would unquestionably improve the amount of parents who do since it would make it easier for them to approach the subject, furthermore, to better understand how to instill responsibility in their children's character. Lastly we must put an end to educating the youth on having sex, and opt instead on teaching about sex and the need for abstinence.

There are those who'd say : “kids will find ways to have sex, you can't stop them” kids want to find ways primarily because of pressure groups, it is today considered an insult to be a virgin and people often mock others for being one. It is human nature to want to fit in. Even we adults have that compulsion from time to time. If we are to change the stigma, more will aspire to be better. We will continue discussing this matter later on when we deal with the issue of society. I will restate however: Just because a problem cannot be resolved to a 100% certainty, doesn't mean we have to accept that some are flawed, therefore we must encourage all to be so, as long as they are safe and reduce the risks attached to their actions.

The code society functions under is one of pleasure and in pursuing that but this is not conduct that is positive for society and it will never be, because society by its nature, requires responsibility in order for it to continue to exist. And as we will see, there exists no such thing in society today.

Society.

Since the morality of self indulgence entered the foreground, society increasingly perceived of sexual relations as something to be pursued for the sake of pleasure. But this is not all, women we are told, have been made to feel shame for her body in the past. So she now, through the lies of the foreign elements within society “empowers” herself by means of loose behavior. The spring break events being indicative there of, among many other forms of behavioral patterns that developed. Today one often hears the phrase “one night stand” and often sexual acts are entered into by the first week What a stark contrast to the past, when man had to court the female, he had to prove himself worthy for her hand in marriage. Today on the other hand we see a complete transformation. These views (a foreign moral code) which the foreign element (Jews) implanted into the mind of our female folk, do not exist to free them from the so-called “oppression” of their male counterparts, they exist solely to cheapen them, and make them feel unworthy of more than being used. I'm sure that by now some one would think to themselves that its unfair for me to have such a bias view of the matter by solely “targeting” the female behavior in society today. I assure you it's not the case, it is not my desire to target our women folk, but to demonstrate how much more they are worthy of, beginning with being respected as had been done in the past not perceived as mere sexual objects. The manner in which we of the West perceived of relationships, was not in order to make a female feel shame, it was an indication of mutual respect and worthiness. Shame was reserved only for those who exhibited a behavior that is equal to what we see today. And as far as my views on men are concerned, I'm well aware of man's role in this society, as I am well aware of his childlike nature this day. Man no longer desires to be a man, he desires to remain a drunken party boy. The very idea of commitment threatens him as though his life was truly in danger. Marriage is perceived as a “finality”, the proverbial nail in the coffin of his childish gallivanting. I'm also aware that man also perceives of having multiple partners as a “right of passage”. These all, also idea's planted into the folks mind by the same foreign elements within our society. We see this in their propaganda (what they call movies) as well, the man is always conflicted about the idea of marriage, there is always a suggestion that it ends his life, and the female is always encouraged to “experience more men” because she couldn't possibly know that she had found the right man for her. This aside, does it make sense to say that...because man perceives of sex in this way, it is dictated that woman should do the same? After all that'd surely change the stigma right? I never understood this special breed of stupidity. No sooner do they demand the right to say no than do they throw it out of the window entirely! Man won't be “stud” if woman says no!. But instead of women demanding more of man, we see today women bragging in the media of having had five thousand sexual partners [5] and for no reason other than self gratification. It's alright though because “men are called stud's if they do so”, it simply will not change the stigma at all. It merely confirms that society has a backward way of perceiving things. Some even sell their virginity (which in itself is a rarity these days) for the sake of paying off debt [6]. When man offers her a way out to not lose dignity she refuses stating that she wants no knight in shining armor. Treating her male counterpart as a common enemy, some one that tries to deny her, her unique form of “empowerment”.

Of course some would argue that society has always had prostitution, nudity etc as a response to most of what I said. We must ask ourselves whether this doesn't say more negative things of society, that we consider this an issue that shouldn't be addressed as much as possible. It is true that some prostitute mainly for the money, while others do so because Government failed them. It is also true that there are many ways prostitution could be kept alive. But the manner it is handled is not effective enough to discourage this behavior, stricter means must be employed. Harsher penalties not only to the female but to the customer as well, as he is the one that rewards this behavior. “As long as there are people willing to pay there will be prostitutes”. This is a statement one often comes across and it is indeed the case, but as long as there are harsh penalties for behavior that is destructive to the community, the less people would be willing to take the risk. Of course, I am not suggesting public hangings, but rather harsher fines, prison terms and the utilization of community pressure. The latter should do enough to dissuade most. What is meant by community pressure? Shaming them, when one looks at the Amish and also the Mormon one sees the effectiveness shaming troublemakers has. No one likes being ostracized this much is true. We've also seen this method's effectiveness during the so-called civil rights movement in the sixties. Labels were used to mock and deride the racially aware of the folk in the United States. They were called backward, ignorant, trailer park trash, people with a narrow world view and we continue to see this method employed daily even today. How often have I not heard these very words used to describe me, and how many times have people told their friends to not approach me, or to not speak to me. They do this because it is the very method that worked to turn their opinions from a racially healthy view to self hating. And it works, so long as people have the desire to not be alone, it truly works, having the approval of others is every average persons desire.

Of course, having said this we come once again onto the subject of free will. As is to be expected in this day and age; “Who are you”...they would say...”to force people to do what is against their will? Or even “people have free will to decide what to use their money on” But one is always subject to the will of the community as well as that of the Government. Allow me to take you back to 1957 so I may better illustrate my point. When the racial integration scheme hit a snag in a few of the Southern States. The USA which up to that point and to this day prides itself on its “free will” decided to send its troops to enforce its desires at gunpoint.[7] The now famously known “Little Rock 9” being an example there of another would be the incident in September of 1962, when White students refused to accept James Meredith on their campus, then Attorney General Robert Kennedy dispatched 400 US Marshalls, and after it turned violent, then President John. F. Kennedy dispatched 3000 troops to quell the White man's resistance to integration [7.1]. Is the desire to associate and live among your own, not an act of free will denied by your system? Does your egalitarian system not oppress, discriminate and shame individuals who are racially aware? Do you not punish those who have a view that threatens the very foundations of your multiracial society, by denying them equal right to be published and marketed? Instead these people have to self publish their work, which of course gives the illusion of freedom of speech, but in reality it puts a firm muzzle on many individuals who can ill afford to do so out of their own pockets. No, we would not be doing anything untoward if we are to suggest that people who exhibit behavior that is undesirable, should be shamed and ostracized. Its benefits would be felt all the way through society, from the teenager to the adult. As reference [5] demonstrates, the lady in question felt shame for not having had sexual relations during her early teenage years, students and friends mocked her, pressure groups are the main cause for behavioral tendencies, and should this turn, less would be so willing to give themselves so cheaply.



Notes:

[1] See: ,2007, “Sex Abstinence Programs Have No Impact On Preventing Unwanted Pregnancies Or Stopping Risky Sexual Behavior”. Medical News Today, 3rd of August 2007. [Online] http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/78751.php accessed: 30th August 2010.

[2] “Sex Education”, Wikipedia Online Encyclopedia, Date last modified: 29th August 2010. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_education accessed : 30th August 2010.

[2.1] Rosemary Bennett, 2008, “Parental Failure to Confront The Problem Is To Blame For Abortion Statistics”, Times Online UK, 19th of June 2008, [Online] available at: http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/article4171322.ece date accessed: 30th August 2010.

[3] See: Graeme Paton, 2008, “Children Aged Five To Get Sex Education”, The Telegraph, 22nd October 2008, [Online] available at: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/primaryeducation/3242919/Children-aged-five-to-get-sex-education.html date accessed : 30th August 2010

[4] Hilary White, 2010, “1000 UK Girls Under Age 12 Prescribed Hormonal Contraceptives Last Year”, Life Site News, 3rd August 2010, [Online] available at : http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2010/aug/10080303.html date accessed: 30th August 2010.

[5] Tiffany Wright, 2009, “I've Slept With 900 Men – So What?”, News Of The World Magazine, 25th October 2009, [Online] Available at: http://www.newsoftheworld.co.uk/fabulous/features/561491/sex-addiction.html date accessed: 30th August 2010. Also see

Daily Mail Reporter, 2010, “I've Had Sex With 5,000 Men in 9 Years”, Daily Mail News, 13th August 2010, [Online] Available at: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1302744/Ive-sex-5-000-men-years-boasts-beauty-therapist-25.html date accessed: 30th August 2010.

[6] Carol Driver, 2010, “18 Year Old Auctions Virginity For 200K To British Bidder”, 6th August 2010, [Online] Available at: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1300843/18-year-old-auctions-virginity-200k-pay-family-debts.html date accessed: 30th August 2010.

[7] “Little Rock Nine”, Wikipedia Online Encyclopedia, Date Last Modified 25th August 2010, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_Rock_Nine date accessed: 30th August 2010.

[7.1] “John F. Kennedy – Civil Rights”, Wikipedia Online Encyclopedia, Date Last Modified 27 August 2010, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_F._Kennedy#Civil_rights date accessed: 30th August 2010.

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